As you may or may not I divorced my middle daughter Nay Nay's dad a few years ago, she was only 4 when we got divorced and wasn't quite sure what was going on but as she gets older she starts asking me more and more questions and sometimes they are not easy to answer...like the one she asked me last night!
I was in the middle of fixing dinner when Nay Nay came into the kitchen and sat down at the table and started starring at me. Now I have known the child long enough to know that when she's not saying anything she's about to say/do/or ask something that I'm not ready for. So I gathered all the courage I could muster (and don't laugh because this child comes up with some crazy stuff...just read this one of my first posts about her) and asked, "What's wrong?" This is how our conversation played out:
Me: What's wrong Nay Nay?
NN: Mommy...why don't you love me?
ME: (See what I mean I can not win with this child) What are you talking about?
NN: Well you divorced my Daddy cause you didn't love him right?
ME: Yes.
NN: Well I'm a part of my Daddy and if you don't love him then how can you love me cause I'm from him?
ME: (trying not to let her see me sweat) Sweetie me not loving your Daddy has nothing to do with loving you...you're a part of me too and I couldn't love you more!
NN: Are you sure cause I love you a lot!
ME: Of course I'm sure I love you to Santa Claus' house and back (this is the one measure my kids give to love...and if I don't say it I can't possibly love them that much) forever and always!
NN: (smiling) Good Mommy cause I didn't want you to divorce me too!
And there you have it...out of the mouth of babes! I swear sometimes she amazes me with the things she comes up with!
I was in the middle of fixing dinner when Nay Nay came into the kitchen and sat down at the table and started starring at me. Now I have known the child long enough to know that when she's not saying anything she's about to say/do/or ask something that I'm not ready for. So I gathered all the courage I could muster (and don't laugh because this child comes up with some crazy stuff...just read this one of my first posts about her) and asked, "What's wrong?" This is how our conversation played out:
Me: What's wrong Nay Nay?
NN: Mommy...why don't you love me?
ME: (See what I mean I can not win with this child) What are you talking about?
NN: Well you divorced my Daddy cause you didn't love him right?
ME: Yes.
NN: Well I'm a part of my Daddy and if you don't love him then how can you love me cause I'm from him?
ME: (trying not to let her see me sweat) Sweetie me not loving your Daddy has nothing to do with loving you...you're a part of me too and I couldn't love you more!
NN: Are you sure cause I love you a lot!
ME: Of course I'm sure I love you to Santa Claus' house and back (this is the one measure my kids give to love...and if I don't say it I can't possibly love them that much) forever and always!
NN: (smiling) Good Mommy cause I didn't want you to divorce me too!
And there you have it...out of the mouth of babes! I swear sometimes she amazes me with the things she comes up with!
It's amazing how insightful children can be! God bless her little heart! You are a wonderful mama to have raised such a deeply feeling child!
ReplyDeleteWow such insight! She is such a sweetie ;).
ReplyDeleteNay Nay is such a precious little girl! I think you did an excellent job with your answer! She is lucky to have such a wonderful mommy!
ReplyDeleteWow - you handled that beautifully. What an inquisitive mind she has lol.
ReplyDeleteWow...she is insightful.
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Awww that nearly made me cry. What a little sweetheart.
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